Monday, October 12, 2009

Life is Short....Eat Dessert....and grab some tissue.

Hankie alert
Earlier this year, I lost a dear friend and colleague. It was sudden, and I didn't find out about it until I had logged into my Facebook account, which is ironic because in the last email I got from my friend, he clearly stated "I wouldn't be caught dead on Facebook". I'm still not sure what to make of that, but had it not been for Facebook, I wouldn't have known why he hadn't returned my last email.

Now, I don't want to be sad or depressing here, really. (Although, this is the first time I've written about my friend's passing, it may not be the last. I've, sadly, lost 2 friends, suddenly, this year.)  I want to share with you how I honor, in my small way, the memory of someone who has just passed away. It's simple, sure, but it helps me get past that initial sad stage. I eat dessert.

Now, I know we're supposed to be healthy in our food choices. I've spent years dieting and denying. Passing up dessert is the sure sign I'm on the dieting kick again.  But I've come to believe that passing up the sweet things in life, just because you think you should, was not part of the plan. I don't want to be morbid here, but what if? What if there's no cheesecake in Heaven? What if they don't stock hot fudge? What if there are no marshmallows for your hot chocolate? What did you miss here? What would you miss there? For me, it's dessert.

So, please, have dessert -- to celebrate, to mourn, or for no reason at all. Even if it's just a bite.

And for Frank, thanks for the years of laughter, support, friendship, grammar rules, and, finally, the Apple Crostada. 


  1. Cindy - What a beautiful tribute to your friend!! Most likely, he wouldn't have wanted it any other way!! And you are so right! I guess I never thought about it that way!!

  2. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. . . but, no cheesecake in Heaven? I can't even get pass that . . . You made my heart feel good with your story, and if you don't mind - I may have to use your way of honoring. I think it is wonderful and couldn't agree more.

  3. I bet it felt good to get that out, good for you, sister!